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- One Simple Way To Diffuse Tension In Your Marriage
- OMG! Woman Burns Little Girl's Hand With Hot Oil, Locks Her Up For One Month
- Wife of Kidnapper & Sister-In-law To Gang Leader Arrested
- List of 13 States Owing Teachers' Salaries
- Seriously? Police Recruit Abducts MOPOL Commander For Ransom
| One Simple Way To Diffuse Tension In Your Marriage Posted: 03 Feb 2018 03:20 AM PST  Read the piece on how to diffuse tension in your marriage: How often do you and your spouse end up at odds because you said something (or he said something) that didn't come out quite right? Ah, the power – and peril – of our words. We often have good intentions. But then somehow, it all goes south. After nearly 30 years of marriage, as a wife I've learned that how we frame our questions or statements can make the difference between uplifting or upsetting our spouses. Consider the following scenario: You are getting ready to go out and grab an inexpensive dinner with your husband. But you feel like freshening up first because you want it to feel like a date. As you focus on getting ready, he is focused on food. As you fix your makeup and hair, he's getting hungrier. Then, when you're finally ready, you notice him in his favorite shorts and his comfy, but not-so-attractive t-shirt and you say, "Are you going to go dressed like THAT?" But you meant: "I dressed nicely. You didn't." He heard: "You look like a slob!" So, you try again: "I dressed up for YOU." He hears: "I dressed up for YOU," but doesn't know how he's supposed to respond. Is that an accusation that I didn't dress up for her? Is she waiting for a 'thank you' or a 'you look great'? Is she expecting me to wear something else? What am I supposed to do? He ends up opting for: "Is that new?" (thinking maybe it is and you'll be upset if he doesn't notice.) You hear: "Did you spend money again on clothes that you don't need?" Now, do you see where all of this misunderstanding and defensiveness can lead? Your man shouldn't have to walk through a minefield to get out the door to have dinner with his wife. Yet the bombs can go off when we say something explosive that we didn't think to carefully frame into a piece of encouragement instead. Reframe Your Words We can talk to our husbands without offending, confusing, or putting them on the defensive by framing what we say in a compliment and eliminating their guesswork. Here are a few of the not-so-kind things wives want to say to their husbands, along with a better way to frame the statement. Don't say: "Are you going to go dressed like that?" Instead, say: "Why don't you wear that new blue shirt? You look terrific in it." Don't say: "Why don't you open doors for me like you used to?" Instead, say: "I really like when you open doors for me. It shows me you care." Don't say: "I tried all day to reach you. Where were you?" Instead, say: "Is everything okay? I wanted to connect by phone and see how you were doing today." Don't say: "We're $400 short this month." Instead, say: "I was able to save $100 in coupons this month, which should help toward our deficit." Don't say: "We need to talk." Instead, say: "Let me know when you're free so we can talk about _________." Did you notice something about how all of those statements were reworded? The original statements sounded like accusations. They were pointed questions that can put your spouse on the defensive. But by reframing the question, it turned into a compliment; what might have been perceived as an accusation turned into a form of admiration and even affirmation. If we, as wives, would never want to hear our husbands say something like, "Are you going to wear that?" or, "Have you gained a little weight lately?" or, "I wish you looked and acted more like you did back when we met," then why on earth would we say it to them? Speak to your man in a complimentary manner, rather than a negative tone. And make sure you watch your body language. (My husband does NOT like when I say something to him with my hands on my hips. For me, it's just a comfortable way to stand. To him, it says I'm assuming command of The USS Enterprise!) I believe we can get in the habit of framing our words well when we practice the instruction in Ephesians 4:29: "Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear." Next time something is on the tip of your tongue, stop and ask yourself, "Will this build up my husband/wife or tear him down?" Always consider how you can reframe your words in a way that builds your spouse. Strive to help your spouse get better. [written by Cindi McMenamin]  culled from Olu famous Mr Olumide's Blog |
| OMG! Woman Burns Little Girl's Hand With Hot Oil, Locks Her Up For One Month Posted: 03 Feb 2018 02:20 AM PST  According to reports the incident happened in New Pleebo, Maryland County, Liberia. The woman put the girl's hands inside hot oil as punishment for eating her rice and then locked her inside a storeroom since January 2. She was rescued a month later on February 1st, after concerned neighbours alerted the police. The report: "Folks, have your say on this little girl. According to information from a correspondent of ELBC (George Mombo) this morning reported that a woman residing in New Pleebo, (Zone 11)of Pleebo, Maryland County burned this little girl's hands and feet. It was alleged that the little girl eat her cold rice (warm rice) this is why she put her hands in the hot oil. The woman in question isn't the mother of this child rather her friend's child. Though according to the same reports, she's now at the police station under the police custody. The question is, what will you do if this child was yours? Moreover, according to the neighbors this took place since January 2, 2018 and the woman wickedly kept this little girl secretly in her store room until day before yesterday."  culled from Olu famous Mr Olumide's Blog |
| Wife of Kidnapper & Sister-In-law To Gang Leader Arrested Posted: 03 Feb 2018 02:20 AM PST  On the 14/1/18, Asp Solomon Aniefiok Unit Commander went on a visit to check his men in the field before he was suddenly Kidnapped by AK47 Rifle carrying Kidnappers. He was eventually released 3 days later after ransom was Paid. Irked by the development, IGP Ibrahim k Idris Deployed the Intelligence response team IRT to Abia state to get the Kidnappers to justice. Based on the IGP directives one of the best IRT teams was deployed and after 6days of unrelenting follow up 5 of the Kidnappers were arrested alive and 1 Kidnapper met his water-Loo during Gun battle with IRT Operatives. Exhibits recovered are 0ne AK47 Rifle with S/no 56-2550382 with 2 Magazines and 60 live Ammunitions, One Barretta Service Pistol of the Mopol Unit Commander, One local made Pistol and 2 Catridges, One Police Bullet proof jacket, One Police vest, 2 head Warmers, One Mopol Jungle Cap. The Kidnappers Arrested are: 1.) Ifeanyi Stanley Ekpelulor 'm' aka one man squad 36yrs. Native of osisioma LGA, Abia State. Gang leader and a Dismissed Recruit as he was dismissed during Police training in 2006, Confessed to Three (3) Kidnap operations in Abia State. John Alozie 'm' aka Alagboso 26yrs. Native of Osisioma, Abia State. Confessed to the Unit commander kidnap and 2 other Kidnappings. Ogbonna Wesley 'm' 31yrs. 4.) Eze Obinna 'm' 22yrs. native of Isiala Ngwa, Abia State. Unit commander - kidnap and used victim's ATM card to withdraw money frm Victims account. Eze Orji 'm' 58yrs. Native of Isiala Ngwa, Abia State.   culled from Olu famous Mr Olumide's Blog |
| List of 13 States Owing Teachers' Salaries Posted: 03 Feb 2018 02:20 AM PST  Osun tops the list with 28 months followed by Nasarawa, 26, Kogi 25, Benue 12 and Ekiti 9 months. NUT President, Comrade Alogba Olukoya, revealed this at the union's 2018 annual gathering. He said the union is compiling reports from across the states before embarking on the strike. He added that both primary and secondary school teachers are affected. "When we get report on salary, if it is not encouraging we will embark on strike. The next is the state of decays in our schools' laboratories and libraries," he said. Olukoya appealed to the states to pay or begin to see the wrath of the Nigerian teachers. He, however, said Benue state will be excused from the strike because of the security challenges affecting the state at the moment. He said the union has received assurance from the state government that the outstanding salaries will be paid soon. The union however, berated the action of Kaduna state government for sacking teachers and directive to stop deduction of check off dues for trade unions. The number of teachers affected in the 13 states were said to be about 300,000. The NUT could not give the amount owed teachers saying it has no record of that at the moment. List of the states and months they are owing: 1: Osun State; 28 Months 2: Nasaraw State; 26 Months 3: Kogi State; 25 Months 4: Benue State; 12 Months 5: Ekiti State; 9 Months 6: Bayelsa State; 7 Months 7: Taraba State; 6 Months 8: Abia State; 5 Months 9: Kaduna State; 5 Months 10: Ondo State; 4 Months 11: Kwara State; 2 Months 12: Delta State; 2 Months 13: Oyo State; 1 Month  culled from Olu famous Mr Olumide's Blog |
| Seriously? Police Recruit Abducts MOPOL Commander For Ransom Posted: 03 Feb 2018 01:40 AM PST  He was trained as a policeman to fight criminals but ended up as one. Nemesis has however caught up with him and four other members of his kidnap gang after they successfully abducted and collected ransom from their victims; among them a police officer. They were arrested by detectives attached to the Inspector General of Police (IGP) Intelligence Response Team (IRT) less than two weeks after they kidnapped a serving Mobile Police (MOPOL) commander in Aba at about 8pm on January 14, 2018. The suspects identified as Ifeanyi Stanley Ekpelulor, John Alozie, Ogbonna Wesley, Eze Obinna and Eze Orji, abducted Unit Commander 55, ASP Solomon Nyakno Aniefiok and collected his service Beretta pistol. He was later released after paying an undisclosed sum to his abductors. On their arrest, a police source said they were all picked up at various locations in Abia State through intelligence gathering generated by the police in Abuja. From police recruit to criminality At the police station, Ifeanyi aged 37 who is the leader of the gang, told detectives that they never knew the man they picked on January 14 was a policeman till he attempted to kill them with his pistol. "I am from Osisioma in Abia State. After my secondary school, there was no money to further my education, so I learnt to drive motorcycle popularly called as Okada. I was among those who were shortlisted to join the police in 2006. "After five months training at the Police College, Ikeja, Lagos, I was dismissed. They caught me with one other person smoking indian hemp. I had no choice but to return back to Aba and start my life all over again. "After several years, I got a job to drive a Sienna bus for one man. Unknown to me, he was a kidnapper. One day, I was in my house when police came and arrested me. They said I should produce my boss, that he is wanted for kidnapping. Since I could not provide him, I was charged to court and sent to prison. I spent almost two years in prison before I was granted bail. While I was in prison, I made a lot of friends and we agreed to help each other when we finally leave the prison. "It was easy for me to form a gang because all my members were once in prison with me. My plan was to raise enough money to buy a bus. I never knew that the man we kidnapped in January was a policeman until he tired to kill us with his pistol." On the kidnap of the Mopol Commander, Ifeanyi said they were on random picking of victims when they spotted him on the road in Aba. " We saw him standing by the roadside talking with a woman. We assumed that he is rich because of the Jeep that he was driving. We simply walked over to him and pointed the AK47 at him and grabbed him. We pushed him into the Jeep and drove off to our hideout at Nnekute bush in Aba. "On our way, he pulled out his gun but luckily, the boys who were at the back noticed it and overpowered him. They beat him thoroughly until he agreed to cooperate. It was then we realized that he is a policeman and we became extremely careful. "Inside the bush, he tried to escape again but my boy Alagbaso caught him and flogged him with his cutlass. He started begging for his life and I told them to leave him but ensure that he is properly tied up. I took his ATM to the nearest bank and withdrew N240,000 while he contacted his family. After two days with us in the bush, they were able to raise N450,000. I got N250,000 as the leader of the gang." On the police uniform found with him, Ifeanyi claimed he bought it from a suspected policeman in Uyo, Akwa Ibom State. "I bought the police jacket N20,000. He knew that I was a civilian and he sold it to me. I was planning to use it when I was arrested. The AK47 that was found in my house was because one of my boys brought it to my house. Police arrested his father, so he decided to clear the house of anything that will implicate him. I never knew that policemen who arrested his father were actually looking for us."  culled from Olu famous Mr Olumide's Blog |
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